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Mentorship is not Control

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Mentorship is not about control; it is about contribution. It is recognizing that God has drawn strength, wisdom, and experiences out of you, not for you to keep, but to share with others. When you mentor someone, you are taking what God has worked in your life and using it to strengthen the areas where they feel weak or uncertain. This is not about making them a copy of you; it is about equipping them to become the best version of who God has called them to be.

One of the greatest lies about mentorship is thinking it is a position of superiority. In truth, mentorship is a service—a responsibility to pour into someone else without insecurity or selfishness. Your victories, your lessons, and even your scars can become roadmaps for someone else’s journey. When you help them avoid the mistakes you made, you are saving them time, pain, and unnecessary detours. That is what makes mentorship an act of love and humility.

The ultimate goal of mentorship is effectiveness in the field of assignment. Every person you mentor carries a calling, a purpose, and a destiny. Your role is not to give them your assignment but to strengthen them to fulfill theirs. This means you must discern their unique gifts, encourage their growth, and give them tools that make them more effective than when they first met you. A good mentor does not compete; they complete. They do not clip wings; they teach how to fly.

So, when God sends someone your way, see it as an opportunity to invest in eternity. Feed their weaknesses with your strength, not with criticism. Share what God has pulled out of you—your knowledge, your faith, your resilience. Do it with joy, knowing that the success of those you mentor is not a threat to your relevance; it is a confirmation of your impact.

Assessment Questions

1. What strength has God developed in you that you can use to mentor others effectively?


2. How can you ensure your mentorship empowers others to fulfill their own calling rather than imitate yours?

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