Let us look further: -      Its okay for them to be good enough for you, are you good enough for them? -         It’s okay for you to be good enough for them, are they good enough for you? -         It’s okay that you need them, do they really need you? -         It’s okay that they need you, do you need them? -         Is this person in line with the vision and purpose you have in Christ? -         Will they fit into your vision? -         Can you fit into their vision? -         Can both of you think together? -         Can both of you walk together? -         Can both of you work together? -         Can both of you communicate with each other without the fear of misunderstanding? -         Can both of you handle misunderstanding in resp...

LOVE…  Who you are and what you have is what you will bring into any relationship.  Can you imagine you bringing all you are now into a relationship, will that relationship be healthy or disaster? Caution: When you want to compliment some one’s talent, creativity, and attitude be specific. You can say I love the way you sing, I love the way you dance, or I love the way you make decisions. Many people will misunderstand your compliment if you are not specific about what you say you love. And this can lead you into a big problem. When you say ‘I love you’ with the intention of staying committed to some one either in platonic or Romantic relationship, that’s a world of responsibility and accountability. This will demand all you are and what you have. I accept you. I value you. I respect you. I’m committed to you etc. all these are the picture of the statement ‘I love you.’ -         Before you think of accepting someone, have you ...

John 3: 16 For God so LOVE the world that He gave His only Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life. The statement “I love you” is more than the movies you have watched. It’s more than the songs you have listened. It’s more than what the past knowledge has educated us. There is a present truth the Holy Spirit has revealed and this truth will keep improving as times goes on. All the details of this teaching are not all there is to know. There is more but before the more arrives, let us take a leap into what’s before us. To some people, this statement is just their ticket to get any thing they need from people. To some people, this statement is just one of the lines in poems. To some people, it’s a call of duty. To some people, it’s an expression of responsibility and accountability. To some people, it’s an emotional feeling that must be expressed with words. If we must discover the truth behind this statement according to the expectati...

LOVE CAN NOT STEAL… Some men have sincerely and honesty raped ladies – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Ladies have honestly dis-virgined men – even men younger than them, IN THE NAME OF LOVE. This is lies the devil is telling this generation. LOVE CAN NOT STEAL. LOVE protects, defend and preserve you. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your TALENT, LOVE is absent. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your SKILLS, LOVE is absent. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your CREATIVITY, LOVE is absent. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your IDEAS, LOVE is absent. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your ATTITUDE, LOVE is absent. If any relationship or friendship is not helping you to protect, defend and preserve your capacity, LOVE is absent. If a...

LOVE is the power of BECOMING but the greatest question is – what are you BECOMING & who are you BECOMING like? Every relationship or friendship is transforming you into some thing and putting you on a journey. ARE YOU ACTUALLY BECOMING THE EXPECTATIONS OF GOD or YOU are BECOMING THE EXPECTATION OF PEOPLE’S GREED? Any friendship or relationship that is not supporting you to become who God has designed you to become is not LOVE even if it comes IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Now that we know what LOVE is according to God’s perspective, let’s look at “IN THE NAME OF LOVE” IN THE NAME OF LOVE is the mask people put on. Some youths and teenagers put this mask on knowingly and some put it on ignorantly. Don’t do things IN THE NAME OF LOVE but let it be for the sake of the TRUTH of God’s word. In living the LIFE God has created you to live, consider God’s factor for doing things. TRUTH is the only basic factor behind why you should do whatsoever you need to do in every friendship or r...

LOVE IS THE TRUTH… LOVE is a Lifestyle that reveals the identity of whom you are and who you ought to become in LIFE. LOVE reveals who you ought to become in the area of your TALENT. LOVE reveals who you ought to become in the area of your SKILLS. LOVE reveals who you ought to become in the area of your IDEAS. LOVE reveals who you ought to become in the area of your ATTITUDE. LOVE reveals who you ought to become in your walk with the Holy Spirit. LOVE IS THE TRUTH. LOVE reveals the TRUTH to you via the expectation of God’s plan for your LIFE. Any TRUTH that do not support God’s plan for your LIFE is not the real TRUTH. Any friendship or relationship that refuses to support you knowing the real TRUTH through God’s word is not LOVE. LOVE IS THE TRUTH. LOVE is TRUTH; LOVE enables you to constantly discover more TRUTH about yourself in Christ. LOVE helps you to walk in the TRUTH and help you become the TRUTH through the Holy Spirit. This TRUTH is LOVE and LOVE is all about...

Some of the youths and teenagers have KILLED other people’s chance for growth and self development – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers chances for growth and self development have being KILLED also – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers are the ones that are STEALING from other youths and teenagers – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers are the very ones robbing off their time, virginity, self development, value, respect…etc IN THE NAME OF LOVE. THIS IS NOT THE WILL OF GOD FOR YOUTHS AND TEENAGERS. Some of the youths and teenagers are distracted from their personal relationship with the Holy Spirit – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers are distracted from developing their gifts, TALENT and CREATIVITY – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers have grown from Godly ATTITUDE to bad ATTITUDE – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some of the youths and teenagers have grown from being polite to being rude – IN TH...

I want to welcome you to another deception among the youths and teenagers. IN THE NAME OF LOVE - this is a subject lust and greed has used to carry out their desires among the youths and teenagers. The name of LOVE is different from the personality of LOVE.  The name of LOVE is an identity, a sound and it’s not a personality. LOVE is a living, a personality and she has a desire. Knowing the name of a person is totally different from you knowing the character of this person. Many people know the name of LOVE but few really know the true personality of LOVE. Whenever you see original, you will always see fakes all around you. LOVE means different things to different people depending on who is feed your concept about LOVE. Some people think LOVE is sex before marriage – IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some people abort their unborn child IN THE NAME OF LOVE. Some people STEAL, lie and even abuse their parents, and pastor IN THE NAME OF LOVE. THIS IS NOT THE WILL OF GOD FOR Y...

Three behaviors you need to adopt to give your kids the freedom to grow. Being​ ​a​ ​parent​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​rewarding​ ​things​ ​you​ ​can​ ​experience.​ ​However,​ ​that   satisfaction​ ​will​ ​be​ ​tested​ ​continuously​ ​as​ ​your​ ​child​ ​grows.       And​ ​they​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​grow​ ​up,​ ​whether​ ​you​ ​are​ ​ready​ ​for​ ​them​ ​to​ ​or​ ​not.       You​ ​may​ ​not​ ​have​ ​a​ ​say​ ​in​ ​them​ ​aging,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​do​ ​have​ ​control​ ​over​ ​how​ ​you​ ​handle​ ​it.​ ​Your   ultimate​ ​goal​ ​as​ ​a​ ​parent​ ​should​ ​be​ ​to​ ​​ raise​ ​independent​ ​children​ ​ ​and​ ​to​ ​do​ ​so​ ​you​ ​can​ ​choose   to​ ​adopt​ ​behaviors​ ​that​ ​will​ ​allow​ ​your​ ​child​ ​to​ ​develop​ ​into​ ​the​ ​amazing​ ​person​ ​you​ ​know​ ​they   are.       1.  Don’t​ ​dismiss​ ​their​ ​feelings.     It’s​ ​importa...

There’s something to be said about putting pen to paper and writing your goals, ideas or to-do lists down. Writing things down helps ease mental clutter. It’s scientifically proven. “Writing stimulates a bunch of cells at the base of the brain called the reticular activating system (RAS),” reports LifeHacker.com. “The RAS acts as a filter for everything your brain needs to process, giving more importance to the stuff that you're actively focusing on at the moment –– something that the physical act of writing brings to the forefront.” Henriette Anne Klauser, author of “Write It Down, Make It Happen,” agrees that writing stimulates the RAS, ultimately sending a signal to the cerebral cortex. “Once you write down a goal, your brain will be working overtime to see you get it.” Take actor and comedian Jim Carrey as an example. After a series of consecutive failures, Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million for “acting services rendered,” later placing...

] Workplaces tend to be filled with tension. Perhaps the company is undergoing budget cuts, and workers fear that layoffs are imminent. On the other hand, maybe there’s too few people to complete all the work that needs to get done, leaving employees overwhelmed and stressed. Whatever the case, due to the demanding nature of the workplace, your job site is the perfect place to extend grace. When you extend grace, you're intentionally responding in a generous or helpful way. Follow these five steps and prove yourself a leader while at work. 1. Don’t Take Bad Moods Personally Everyone has bad days, and the best way to show grace when a colleague has the blues is not to take it to heart. If it seems like your colleague or supervisor has “an attitude” one day, don’t escalate the situation by taking offense or using the same tone with them that offended you. Consider that they could be having problems at home or work that you don’t know about. Chalk up their behavior a...

Anytime someone mentions their name your heart feels heavy.   How did things ever get this way?  Did you ever think you would go this long without talking to your best friend? Has it really been ten years since you last talked to your dad?    While you should never apologize to someone as a matter of habit or convenience, when you realize that you’ve genuinely made a mistake it’s time to reach out.  Being the first to offer an apology shows that you value the relationship above your ego. Pick up the phone, send that email and remember these four reasons it’s OK to be the first to apologize: 1. You realize you were wrong.   Researchers found that there are two main types of regret:  regret for actions and regret for inactions.  Those studied felt sorry for their actions such as speaking about someone behind their back.  Regret for inaction occurred when the person didn’t take a step they knew they should h...